Homework Helps

The three stages of homework:

  1. "Hmmm. I don't think I have any."
  2. "Wait, I do have some, but it's pretty much done."
  3. "Please help me, Mom! It's due tomorrow!"

Sound familiar? We can do several things that will allow us to help our children gain the necessary responsibility to complete their homework on their own.

 

Their Problem

"Our kids" homework is their problem" (Cline and Fay 190). Now those are words we can live by!

"Our parental responsibility is to provide our kids with the opportunity to do their homework. Whether it be for a half hour or an hour or even two hours, our children must sit down at a table or desk with their schoolbooks nearby. That's the opportunity. We allow the kids to choose the place (dining room, kitchen or their room) and time. We even allow them to choose whether to study or not" (190).

"Let's"

One of the best words a child can hear is "let's" Even though homework will be their responsibility, let's is a positive way to invite them into the homework hour.

"Let's both sit down at the table and we'll get our work done."

You don't need to be studying: doing church work, handiwork, anything will do. If you sit close to your child while he completes his work, you'll be right on hand if he has a question, and setting an example of hard work.

Do I Help?

One woman relates a story about the time her mother, an artist, "helped"  her draw her self-portrait for an art final. The daughter, now grown, still cringes as she remembers walking in to the final with a self-portrait that was much better than everyone else's, not to mention any previous work she'd done for the class.

Go ahead and help: and strike a balance between helping too much (doing it yourself) or too little (doing it until you're grouchy about helping).

Parenting experts give this guideline: help "only if your kids ask for it, and only as long as it's profitable. When we start to become irritated, we've helped enough" (Cline and Fay 191).

Create a period of time, about half an hour to an hour, each evening that's set apart for homework completion. Kids don't have to do their homework during this time, but keeping the TV and other media off and not allowing friends over during that time might make homework more appealing.

The goal is not just to get completed homework out of our children, but to help them become responsible and to develop the discipline to complete assignments on their own. As our children take ownership of their assignments they'll build their self-image and self-esteem.

We get to give our children the time, space, supplies, and example, then let homework happen.

Sources

Cline, Foster and Jim Fay. Parenting with Love ang Logic. USA: Pinion Press, 2006.
Latham, Glenn I. The Power of Positive Parenting. Logan, UT: P&T Ink, 2006.