Internet Safety

It's estimated that one-third of "all websites contain explicit sexual content. To block that content, parents sometimes use electronic filters. Unfortunately, it is difficult for any filter to adequately screen the thousands of chat rooms that spring up like mushrooms" (Cline and Fay 194).

It can feel like we're fighting a force much larger than ourselves when trying to keep our children safe on the internet.

What are the main things to watch for? What can we do to increase a child's safety?

"It has been estimated that one in five children are solicited online for sex. According to a recent survey, one in five U.S. teenagers who regularly log on to the Internet say they have received unwanted sexual solicitation via the Web" (Cline and Fay 194).
It's a frustrating reality that the internet, with all its potential for good, is a place we need to be very watchful.
The internet is like an apple barrel, "filled with endless worms and rotten apples" (Cline and Fay 194). Danger on the internet includes harmful information (pornography, for example) and people who intend to harm.

  • Put the computer in a high traffic area
  • Teach predator tactics
  • Have some "never" rules
  • Use filters as a first defense
  • Know passwords
  • Be involved

Outside Controls

One great way to increase internet safety is to put the computer in a high traffic area in your home rather than in bedrooms. You'll be on hand for questions and it will automatically limit what is viewed.
Teach kids how predators think and act. "Never" rules like "never give out any personal information, never enter private chat rooms, and never agree to meet anyone from a chat room in person" are wise (www.kidshealth.org).
Filters are a good first defense in reducing the risk of internet abuse. Unfortunately, however, filters are not a fix-all. They can't catch everything and teenagers can often find ways around them.

Be Involved

We need to be involved in our children's internet use.
This might mean we take a computer class (most of us aren't born knowing to use the computer the way our kids are).
Check credit card bills and phone bills for any unusual usage that could indicate a harmful person has entered your child's life.
Use the internet with your child-”just like you'd watch television shows together-and talk about safety issues.
Protecting your child includes your understanding the territory: Are they registered on MySpace.com? Who are they e-mailing? What websites are their favorites?

It's a good idea to be fairly specific with kids when explaining what to look out for in terms of internet safety, especially young children. For example, because pedophiles will often gain access to children through chat rooms, explain that anyone can say they are a twelve-year-old girl, even an older man. Children can be confronted with this at a young age, and their best defense is you.

Most of our children have never known the world without the internet. One child said to a mom wondering about what family activity one night, "You should ask the internet. It will know."

The internet is a phenomenal tool: Writing a book report isn't what it used to be, shopping for a car isn't what it used to be, finding a recipe isn't what it used to be. The internet has literally changed the landscape of our lives.

Being involved and aware can help you make sure the impact of the internet on your children's lives is a positive one.

Sources

Cline, Foster and Jim Fay. Parenting with Love and Logic. USA: Pinion Press, 2006.